My dad left my mom for her best friend…
At the time my mom was devastated.
To top it off they had been living in a small town so everyone knew.
While I felt sorry for my mom, alone in her house, I was oddly relieved.
My brother was living on the coast and I was married and living in Calgary when the news broke..I was really happy for my dad. The way he went about leaving my mom was not ideal, however; I was glad he had broken free and was charting his own path to happiness.
My parents had not been happy as long as I could remember. Even when I was in grade eight helping my dad chop wood, I remember telling him to get a divorce. No, they wanted to stay together for the sake of my brother and I. Please!! Needless, to say I could not wait to leave home once I graduated. Our home had been a toxic soup of blame, resentment and false smiles when friends or relatives showed up.
My mom eventually moved to the coast and for years after, visiting her during the holidays was especially difficult as she continually held on to the bitterness of my dad leaving her. I was growing spiritually and as much as I deeply loved my mom, I could no longer tolerate her harsh words and negative attitude towards my dad. I shared with her that if she wanted to see me, she would need to find a way to learn how to forgive and let go of the past.
Within the next year and through a turn of divinely timed events my mom woke up and recognized how her negative thoughts about life were creating a world of dis-ease and loneliness. She was finally ready to let go of the pain of yesterday and since I was now a Relationship Coach, she asked if I could help her cross the bridge and create a new family connection. I was so proud of her and asked her if she wanted to move to Calgary and live with me since my brother was now living here as well.
Six months later, my mom moved in with me. With a willingness and learning attitude she took my coaching program. It was not easy to shift the mind of a woman who was sixty four years young but she did it!! As she forgive herself for all the pain she had caused, she was able to forgive my dad and my now step mom. She began to see the divine gift in everything and through forgiveness her heart opened. And a new man stepped into her life. A man who became my step dad.
Forgiveness and choosing to let go of the past brought a new way of being into my mom’s life. So much so, that when I had a house party I invited both sets of parents to meet for the first time since my dad had left. Both asked their Higher Self to be present and sure enough the introduction of the four led to the most incredible reunion of laughter, connection, and shared memories. A new bond of friendship was born. Every year after, until my step father passed away, we all spent every holiday together.
Love made a dream come true. I organized a trip to New York for both sets of parents and my brother and I. That trip was a highlight of my life as I sat and witnessed my mom and step mom giggling like little girls as they shopped in Macy’s. It was all because many years ago, my mom said yes to forgiveness, let go of the past and divinely stepped into life.
Thank you mom. I love you.